Self love

The simple definition of love is that it’s a “state of having a strong sense of liking towards something”. The word “towards” means that there is a transfer from one place to another, so love is the medium of transfer rather than the actual objects being transferred, it really has nothing to do with what you have. Having so many things to like about yourself does not answer the question as to whether you should love yourself or not…

Self-Love is an action of responsibility towards yourself, meaning where there's a weakness, you uplift, where there is vulnerability, you protect, where there's a need, you provide, and where there's a problem, you solve. A selfish person is the one who wants everything for himself, self-love is the sense of compassion towards yourself, apart from everything. It’s about how you would feel about yourself if you were the only person in the world.

At some point, through uncertainty about what people will see, we feel a need to gain publicity. It's a profound, all-consuming desire for affirmation accompanied by anxiety and thoughts like, "I don't deserve this, or that" It makes you feel wanting to improve, confused, lonely and absolutely powerless.

And as a result, one ends up spending the majority of their life trying to fix themselves, to win approval from everyone around you, and escape the shame of their worst decisions...A lot of us desperately want to know what love and happiness feels like, but we don’t really believe we deserve either. And we also have no idea how to give them to ourselves. We’re so used to beating ourselves up over mistakes, blaming ourselves for everything we’ve failed to do, and doubting what we can do in the future and we believe in that punishing inner voice that always criticizes us.

The fact that someone else loves you doesn’t rescue you from the project of loving yourself. Self-love makes you visualize filling yourself up with love from the inside out as opposed to the outside in, which would be relying on other people to make you feel loved. You should Fill yourself up with so much love that it just spills out into your relationships with other people. 

The more you love yourself, the more you can give to the others, and the more love you’ll attract from others. Love yourself first, so that even if a relationship with someone else doesn’t work out, you’re not left there questioning if you’re worthy of being loved. The answer is that you are! But work on loving yourself first in the way you want someone else to love you.

There is nothing like unconditional love. There is only one thing called love and that is unconditional already. If not, then it is not love. The enemy of love is fear. You are scared they will never accept you because you are different. I don't know what's easier, to change yourself or to get rid of fear and accept yourself as you are. It doesn’t mean that everyone will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. It means that you won’t let them change the way you see yourself; nor will you stick around for them to destroy you.

 “There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear: because fear has torment. He that fears is not made perfect in love.” (1 John  4:18)

Love yourself